It's who I am... How I think... and what I'd like to share to the world...

I've been thinking lately why I have more guy friends than girl friends that I really like to hang out with.

The PROS:

GUY FRIENDS

1. can go anywhere because they don't have pedicures to worry about.

2. can do sporty stuff... lots. Billiards, table tennis, lawn tennis, basketball, wall climbing, swimming, thumb wrestling. What else? Take your pick.

3. can talk to you about anything and everything under the sun. They can give you a guy's point of view. They are direct to the point.

4. If you're with nice guys, they're gentlemen and would offer to give you a lift home or pay the bill when you eat fishball.
5. have other guy friends who happen to be your crush. You can hang out with your friend plus your crush.

6. are really funny.

7. allow you to be comfortable with them, dress in more comfortable clothes, have really gross contests like burping contests, farting contests (not really.hehehe!). They're not that conscious of how stupid they'd look when you'll go to a gamezone.

8. An acoustic guitar (plus a beatbox if we're that lucky), a few drinks and some food are all we need and we're good to go.

9. can eat anything and you can pig out with them. They don't care about the calories.

10. Fall in love with you. Guy friends can get really nice and you're lucky if you like the guy too.

The Cons:

GUY FRIENDS

1. often get really prissy with their hair. They hate it when you touch their hair. AND their shoes, especially if it's white or leather.

2. cream you at sports if you really don't know how to play. No mercy. "Walang girl-girl dito!"

3. sometimes forget that they're with a girl and the subject gets... well... sensitive. But if you're okay or comfortable with that, then cool.

4. sometimes forget that they're still with a girl and they treat you like one of the guys. Have you seen your guy friends pull up a chair for their other guy friends??

5. When you're hanging out with your crush's barkada and him, you see him do really stupid things... icky things like pick his nose or fart really loudly (and stinks really bad too).

6. can tease you to no end until you actually cry/get mad/get really mad.

7. sometimes go out in their ratty clothes. Slippers, shorts and their favorite old t-shirt. The ultra-comfy-look. You can't talk about make-up and all that girly stuff. Most guys also hate shopping when they're with girls. (Whatever!)

8. The songs they sing are totally far from the songs you like. So basically you don't appreciate their acoustic jam sessions. Aw just listen!

9. can out-eat you so don't try to out-eat them. But I can out-eat some guys. HAHA!

10. Fall in love with you. Guys can get really mushy and touchy-feely. Too bad for you if you don't like the guy and he JUST.WON'T.TAKE.NO.FOR.AN.ANSWERRRRR!

Oftentimes I find it difficult to mingle with girls. It may not show, but gurl if only you could read my mind! I've been backstabbed so many times by some of my closest friends that I've grown cynical. I seem to have never learned until the last straw.

The PROS:

GIRL FRIENDS

1. can go and shop with you till you both drop. It's also okay with them if you linger more around one particularly interesting shop.

2. can understand you because she's the same sex as you. Girl friends can share with you great advice on kikay stuff, boy stuff, problems of the heart and so on.

3. can give you a hug anytime you want, even if you ask for it, without anyone putting malice into it. You can giggle and be silly with them without nauseating them (boys get green in the face when we do that kasi).

4. can be told those secrets that you just can't tell your guy friends (like you have a crush on his kabarkada) and they can be trusted to keep it that way.

5. can keep up with you in gabfests or movie marathons on all those chick flicks and definite cutie-sighting movies especially when it's a sleep over.

6. are okay with it if you would cry infront of them. They'd know the right thing to do and the right pick-me-up item to lighten your mood.

7. won't fall inlove with you. They're not into that kind of sexuality.

8. would fight tooth and nail for you when they feel you've being dissed by some lame chick.

9. cover for you when you're into some trouble (either with a guy, your parents or some other person).

10. know when you're not okay.

The Cons:

GIRL FRIENDS:

1. sometimes borrow money from you (meaning, it's deducted from your allowance/salary) just to buy that oh-so-cute-little-t-shirt you both ogled in the store window.

2. can't give you much help when you're in need of technical/mechanical help with thingamajigs. They'd whine endlessly that they're tired and bored and want to sit down and drink coffeeeeeee......... ugh. Not much help.

3. can't hug you if they're not into that kind of thing. They think it's...corny? It's just not their thaaaaannngggg.

4. can use those deep dark secrets as weapons of destruction in your life. Enough said.

5. can outgab you. I mean come on, go to sleep already!

6. would nag on you if you cry over a guy. You end up feeling sorrier for yourself.

7. may fall inlove with you especially if they're into that kind of sexuality. Or they suddenly change lanes.......

8. wouldn't even lift a finger for you cause they "don't want to get involved."

9. would rat on you if they see that there's more to gain from that.

10. would ignore you even if they know you're not okay.

But in college, I was fortunate enough to have been able to meet the special people who've shown me that girls are also okay to be with. They've helped me heal some of my wounds. I may have a long way to go, but I thank them for it. They are my honeys for life.